A growing number of Singaporeans and I suspect a large number of people overseas find themselves juggling the responsibilities of taking care of their aged parents and raising their own children. There is also the added responsibility of saving for one’s own retirement. Truth is, membership to this “Sandwich Generation” is not voluntary, there are steps you can take to maintain your own emotional and financial health as you take care of your loved ones.
This phenomenon of the "Sandwich Generation” has arisen because more people are living longer and having children later. There is an escalating conflicting responsibilities that we adults must juggle, as such it is not surprising we are a high-stressed group of people. What can we do to slay this 3 headed monster of retirement, children’s education and parents.
Taking care of our parents.
The best time to have a dialogue with your parents is before they need any medical care.This will help to ensure our parents wishes are upheld and reduce the chances of conflict from arising among siblings regarding the physical financial care.
Gain an understanding of your parents financial situation, health and medical conditions and wishes regarding their care.
Organise all important documents such as insurance policies, property deeds, investments, will , lasting power of attorney for easy retrieval and administration.
Ensure all Wills, Trusts and Lasting Power of Attorney are updated such that their legal, medical and financial wishes will be executed should they become incapacitated.
Do have a long term care and medical insurance policy in place.
Do research available eldercare support services in your area to elevate your burden.
Enlist the help of your siblings and other family members. Have a prior discussion who should provide care for your parents. Where possible, engage a professional geriatric care personnel to coordinate and oversee care.
Taking care of our children education
The cost of tertiary education is constantly rising. Taking the following steps can help your children reach their academic qualification and also maintain your financial well being.
Start as early as possible to prepare for your child’s education. Explore various endowments and investment plans to achieve the desired funding for their fees. Always attached a rider of payor benefit for any insurance plan taken up for your children.
Research any possibilities of financial assistance, grants, bursary, scholarships, edusave awards, low interest loans, intern opportunities. Make this an important part of tertiary education process as financial aid may vary from university to university.
Taking care of our retirement
You must also take good care of yourself in order to care for thers in the family. Make your own financial and physical health a priority.
Create a clear plan for your own goals and continue to invest in your future as you take care of your parents and bring up your children.
We must always be realistic on how much we can afford to pay for our children education fees and parents eldercare. There are many financial assistance and community support programs for them, but there is very little financial assistance for your retirement.
Will you enjoy your retirement or retire from your enjoyment?
Always have a 3-6 months contingency savings, avoid debt where possible or keep them low. Have a retirement plan in place and review your financial goals regularly with your adviser. It is always never too early to save as much as you can for the future. In fact, the older you is already knocking at the door f your younger you.
Do ask for help, taking care of an aging parent cannot be a one-person job. Do not neglect yourself or your family to care for an aging parent. Having sufficient rest and time to yourself will help you go the distance for your loved ones.
Remember, you cannot be there for others unless you are first there for yourself.